Why Giving Your Full Attention Matters More Than Perfect Advice in Mentoring

A piece by developer Asael Shinder on DEV Community argues that the most valuable thing a mentor can offer is undivided time, not expert advice. Shinder contends that people rarely remember the cleverest guidance they received, but do remember those who slowed down and listened without distraction. He warns against the common impulse to quickly fix a surface problem, suggesting that asking follow-up questions allows the real issue to emerge. According to Shinder, the fast answer often misses the point because the mentor never stayed long enough to understand what the person was truly struggling with. He concludes that presence and genuine attention leave a lasting impression, regardless of whether the mentor had anything insightful to say.